Comments on: It's Tough Not Being Perfect

By: Terrell Mims

Terrell Mims — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 14:43:23 +0000

I’ll never be good at being a woman. Darn it. Gotta go return some stuff to Neiman Marcus. I spent 28 years as a male. Why change it? LOL! Just kidding.

It’s good that we recognize our flaws, but also to praise our strengths…now time to find those receipts.

By: Jane Lovering

Jane Lovering — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 16:21:05 +0000

What am I rubbish at? How long have you got? I’m useless at almost the whole alphabet, from aerobic exercise to zoning out when people are nagging me. But, hell, I can live with me, and so can my husband and kids (all of who seem to be well-enough fed and cared for), so I guess I’ll just learn to live with my inabilities.

Except dressage. Still trying to get good at that. Still look like I’m knitting a horse underneath me. Ah well.

By: Simon walker

Simon walker — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 21:17:33 +0000

I used to try to excel as I had low esteem. For years I worked out, read, took up hobbies, read self help books etc to gain approval.

Trite but true however, one day I consciously stopped any harsh thoughts about myself as soo as i felt my confidence going or gone, realising they surfaced so quickly they were just there and my conscious mind took them as a reality,

They are not reality. People love imperfect people, they are attracted to those at ease with themselves. To take from JFK every day I try to think what I can do for others, less what feedback they can give me.

I now get more positive feedback at a time when I need it least because I self affirm as often as I have time to, leaving harsh thoughts nipped in the bud.

I still work out loads though, I’ll place vanity at the top of my imperfections list!

By: Kristen Lamb

Kristen Lamb — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 18:16:38 +0000

In reply to Jan O’Hara of Tartitude.

I actually have a lemon zester–three to be exact…somewhere. Not hating the zester, kust the people who can find theirs, LOL.

Any time, :D.

By: Kristen Lamb

Kristen Lamb — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 18:15:38 +0000

In reply to Susan Spann.

Ha ha ha ha ha. Yes, I am not allowed near the Scrabble game either….or Trivia. But that’s okay because they know they can beat me like an old rug at anything else. I still haven’t figured out how to play checkers and tiddlywinks is just a good way to lose an eye, :D.

What great feedback. Glad to know I am not alone in my “imperfection”, LOL.

By: Susan Spann

Susan Spann — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 17:26:36 +0000

OK, this absolutely cracked me up – more than partly because you could have written most of it about me. There’s a reason I’m drawn to writing novels about historical heroines who started out as underdogs. Just call me Joan – Wilder, not d’Arc.
I’m not good at housecleaning, and I don’t do windows. My desk looks like a cyclone hit. I haven’t balanced a checkbook since college – and that was on a dare. (Which I won, so I’m not bad at everything.) Dice hate me, so I’ve learned not to touch any board game but Scrabble – and nobody will play that with me anymore. (Hint: “quixotic” on a triple-word score will not endear you to your opponents.)
But I like encouraging other people, and I’m learning to write books, and most days, that seems like enough.

By: Piper Bayard

Piper Bayard — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 15:47:41 +0000

Thank God, you’re a perfect Kristen, because the world needs one of those, and no one else can do that job. With enough wine, anyone can be a perfect dancer. At least they can think they are, and perfection is at least 50% perception.

As for me, I’ll never be a perfect parent. After #2 was born, I accepted that fact and adopted a new standard: If they can pay for their own therapist when they are grown, I haven’t done everything wrong.

However, if you know anyone who is perfect with laundry, please give them my number.

By: Jan O'Hara of Tartitude

Jan O'Hara of Tartitude — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 15:43:47 +0000

You had me till you began to hate on the lemon zesters. Leave all things citrusy alone. 😉

I think I’m mellowing, too. I’ll never be popular, or regal, or capable of swift, witty repartee except sometimes online. But I’m reflective, try to learn and grow from all experiences – even the ones that suck. I think I’m pretty good at letting other people know when I admire them and why.

Which leads to my last comment: thanks for the shout-out earlier in the week and this blog. You give me much food for thought.

By: Jami Gold

Jami Gold — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 15:43:09 +0000

Hey! When did we become twins??? LOL!

I am an over-achieving perfectionist who will never be good at sports, not being a klutz, singing, drawing, etc. But that’s okay because I like writing better than all those anyway. 🙂 And I like to think I’m pretty darn good with being loyal to the bone, optimistic, and encouraging others to see the good in things.

By: Vivi

Vivi — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 15:41:02 +0000

Great post. I think I’ll never be good at singing. 🙁 and that used to matter to me but now it’s just like, oh well, got to find a different thing I can be good at… hopefully, I will. Let’s have some faith. Yeah, I’d like to think I’m positive.