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By: cestgigi

cestgigi — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 05:46:43 +0000

It’s strange; I just started a new blog, in addition to one already in existence. I wrote a post on the new one just yesterday about whether anger makes writing easier, remembering a FBook haranguing by a stranger. I had written a three-thousand word essay about the ‘haranguer’, who was a bully. I had tried several times to bow out of the conversation on a mutual friend’s wall, but she would have none of it. I had made the colossal mistake of expressing my own opinion, albeit respectfully, and I had made some historical mistakes in my comment. She began cyber stalking me, and her posts were detrimental to my reputation and character. Those comments are there potentially in perpetuity for the world to see and read. Finally, I wrote a post about the incident, after which she backed off and actually contacted her attorney! I summarily told him that writing the truth is never actionable. The point is, incivility on her part ultimately hurt her more because she is a published professor, and my article is up to stay on my blog. I spent hours on what I consider wonderful turns of phrase in my post, fueled by righteous anger. Right or not, I don’t know- but I wouldn’t have done it for an ordinary and respectful difference of opinion.

I have also been ‘defriended’ for a teasing general remark after the election, and again for a difference of opinion about mainstream vs alternative medical care, of all things! The discussion was civil, the post I put up was on my wall, and this woman had joined the conversation. And, I’ve been banned and had nasty comments sent to me for writing reminiscences that didn’t happen to jive with the white-washing of other flight attendants about flying with Pan Am. I thought being banned was a hoot, like I was on a par with Lenny Bruce, or something. It actually motivated me to write twenty-plus stories about my flying years, memories I had previously just been sharing on a FBook forum.

One thing I’ve noticed is that the ‘defriending’ and banning were done by women; most men seem to be able to have a disagreement without breaking off the connection, behavior that is typical of seventh-graders. I came to the conclusion that to be and write anything other than what you are, is foolhardy and impossible. I am not a mean, offensive, or aggressive person, so go figure. I am just glad I have the internet to write it all out. I am working on a new post, ‘Being Fey In America’. I’ll vent some more in that-

By: Richard Snow - Writer

Richard Snow - Writer — Fri, 21 Dec 2012 02:14:36 +0000

Reblogged this on Richard Snow Writer and commented: This blog post was by Kristen Lamb at warriorwriters.com. It's one of the best blog posts I've ever read, and it's about avoiding public fights and slanging matches on social media.

By: Russell

Russell — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:14:05 +0000

As a humor writer, I find it can be a fine line between being funny and being a smartass. I like to build the humor around the situation or action and let my flawed characters be themselves. We all have a cousin Eddie–and if you’re a hillbilly like me–several of them. There is plenty to write about without attacking others or tackling subjects that open yourself to attack.

By: The Peoples Republic of Northumbria

The Peoples Republic of Northumbria — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 22:41:59 +0000

Reblogged this on The Peoples Republic of Northumbria and commented: what a cracking blog and so right about social networking..

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Mind Sieve 12/17/12 « Gloria Oliver — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 12:03:21 +0000

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By: Diceyblog

Diceyblog — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 23:44:17 +0000

“The only way we can hope to get along is to just learn to pay attention to what speaks to us and ignore the rest.”–Very true. Social media has us reaching people with different ideas and sensibilities. It’s impossible to please everyone all the time. All we can do is think about what’s important to us, yet still entertaining, and try to be positive. At least we can be comforted in knowing that we had the best of intentions, even if someone finds a post offensive.

By: The Hook

The Hook — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 13:29:38 +0000

I think you’ve struck a chord here, Kristen – with virtually all of your readers. Who hasn’t been the subject of a virtual “Gotcha!!” and scorn? I’ve recently challenged an individual with some very pointed views on the hospitality industry and its workforce in particular. However, I’ve attempted to be respectful at all times.
Sometimes you HAVE to speak up, but in a civilized manner, of course.
Once again, thank you, Kristen.

By: ramblinann

ramblinann — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 12:51:21 +0000

I used to clean for some elderly who lived in a beautiful over 55 trailer park not far from here. It was perfect. All on one floor, maintenance handled trash p/u, and snow removal, etc… I wanted to move in. LOL

When my boys were younger, their step father and I had to move them to a bad part of the city into a triple decker. For this area that can mean the inner city version of a trailer park. To say I felt like the worst mom on the planet would be an understatement, but if someone had dared to call me that online I would have come out swinging. We were there because of circumstances beyond our control. It has been 8 years since we moved out of there and I can finally laugh at some of the things we endured.

Oh and we now live in a “prefab” with three indoor cats, but my neighbor’s cats come over to pee outside my back door, and the feral’s use the spot directly under my bedroom window as their honeymoon suite.

Personally I try not to publicly criticize anyone. Especially those I don’t know personally. As you said, I don’t know what happens in their life when the computer gets shut down.