@ Raani, I guess I’ve been really fortunate because I know a lot of published authors (mostly indies) who are willing to mentor newbies and who are tactful but willing to offer advice. And I can see the point of view of authors who give general support but not heavy critique: they wouldn’t want to be accused of being mean. I’ve seen authors give really insightful advice to newbies, but hold back on spelling tips so the newbies weren’t embarrassed.

It might take a while to acquaint yourself with published authors and being trustworthy is essential (as in any friendship). Yesterday, I realized that I’m acquainted with 19 published authors and I’m close friends with 6 of them. That’s cool. But everyone, even the newest newbie, has something to offer in form of critique if one pays attention.

I submitted my manuscript two weeks ago and I’m now 12K into the sequel. Biting my nails while I wait for a response.

The great thing about a circle that’s made up of enthusiastic friends is that you hold each other up during the hard times. It’s also great being able to ask questions of people who’ve been where you want to go.

I’ve been very fortunate to work with this group. There’s rarely any friction as everyone is there to learn and to support each other. I love these people.

You need to put the same sort of effort into finding or constructing a circle that you’d put into choosing a college. You wouldn’t carelessly pick the first college to offer you a place. Why would a circle be different? You need a functional, trustworthy group and you must give of yourself as well as receive.

Ask questions: Who belongs? What stage of publishing is everyone at? What are the rules and habits of the group? What’s taboo? Do they meet often enough to help you make progress?

If you get a good fit, hang onto it!

PS- I like the crab analogy. Totes awesome. 🙂