Comments on: Facing a Social Media Apocalypse? Sometimes We Need to Mend the Hearts We Hurt

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Fri, 02 Aug 2013 20:17:00 +0000

[…] your typical marketing post, but Kristen Lamb’s post on “Facing a Social Media Apocalypse? Sometimes We Need to Mend the Hearts We Hurt” is definitely a good reminder to be careful of being too passionate on the Internet. As she […]

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Connecting with Technology Part 2: Friends, Everywhere | Diana Beebe's Blog — Sun, 28 Jul 2013 13:28:28 +0000

[…] Kristen Lamb talks about this strange, new connectivity we have with technology in her new book Rise of the Machines, which I’m reading and absorbing. I have to agree with her–and not just because I’ve taken up residence in her blogging class, but also because of my blogging classmates and friends. We do make more human connections because of technology. I highly recommend her book, especially if you are building a brand platform for yourself. […]

By: Kate

Kate — Sun, 28 Jul 2013 03:22:03 +0000

It wasn’t social media, but an email that caused me anguish. It was pre-election of Obama and I was bombarded in emails and social media with all sorts of bad mouthing about him. And not because I was voting for or against him, but I was tired of it. Tired of the mean-ness, tired of the negativity, the veiled discrimination comments, etc. Most of the emails came from my dear sister-in-law. Someone I love deeply and is the sweetest person I know. It disappointed me greatly that she was forwarding these hateful, hurtful messages. One particularly bad day I was in a foul mood. And opening my email to find yet again another Obama bashing email…I snapped. I hit “reply all”, clicked on the dreaded “all caps” and wrote back that I was tired of it. I didn’t want to get any more of these types of emails. They were wrong, misleading and hurtful. And I would vote for whoever I thought was the better candidate to lead this country. I hit “send”, and heaved a sigh of relief. Felt like I took a righteous stand in an otherwise down and dirty election campaign.
That was short-lived. Next thing I knew I received response after response from all those on my s-i-l’s contact list. “How could I yell at such a sweet woman?”, “You are a mean-spirited person to yell at a nice woman”, was called many names not fit to print, etc etc. One person even began to spam me with even more hateful msgs about Obama.
I then realized that I had just acted like the mean girls I don’t like, the ones I want to stand up to, the ones that I wish could be banned across all social media platforms. I had become one of THEM! And had hurt someone I love deeply, all because I had a bad day and pointed all my anger over the mean campaign msgs toward her.
I apologized over and over and over, and till this day I still feel like I’m trying to mend fences with my s-i-l, (though she’s always telling me that its not necessary, says she totally understands).
So now I’m a big proponent of the “stop and think before hitting send” style of commenting/replying.

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Writing Resources 27 July 2013 | Gene Lempp ~ Writer — Sat, 27 Jul 2013 14:01:47 +0000

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By: Nikki Starcat Shields

Nikki Starcat Shields — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 14:58:15 +0000

Hi Kristen. I’ve just discovered your blog and books recently (I’m reading Rise of the Machines and love it!). I have a question about learning the craft of fiction. By way of background, I’m a nonfiction writer, and my main focus is personal spirituality. My first book was just published this past winter, and I’ve just written a second one, which I plan to self-publish this summer (by choice). I’m having SO much fun writing, and am starting to get the hang of promotion and the use of social media. I’ve been blogging for quite a while, already, so that helps.

Anyway, to the point, I want to start delving into fiction. My plan is to set up an outline and get things ready, then do NaNoWriMo in November to begin work on my first draft of a novel. My question: what craft books would you recommend I read in preparation? In your blogs you refer to things like character arcs and 3-acts and other things I’m not super familiar with. I’m part of ROW80, and my fellow authors over there also refer to a lot of these common fiction-writer terms. I realize that practice is essential, and I’m already writing every day (not fiction, but I will be once I start the novel). I want to learn the key things I need to know as I set up my outline and start my new adventure in fiction writing. Thanks in advance for any recommendations you can provide. I’m so thankful for your blog – your writing is not only informative and helpful to me, but also a whole lot of fun to read.

Blessings,
Nikki Starcat Shields

By: Jade Reyner

Jade Reyner — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:57:07 +0000

Thank you for such an honest post which is a sage lesson to us all. 🙂

By: ontyrepassages

ontyrepassages — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:46:56 +0000

I can’t think of specific instances, but I know I’ve misread the tone others are using and have had my dry humor taken the wrong way. No matter what I apologize for the misunderstanding and continue to try and be more cautious. If it’s humor I make sure they know it. Too, I sympathize with your misdiagnosis. I was misdiagnosed back in 2009 and was on the wrong meds for 9 months. When I insisted I was getting worse the doctor sent me to a psychiatrist. I ended up in the hospital and permanent lung damage. I helps keep me in my chair more often to write is the way I look at it now.

By: donnajeanmcdunn

donnajeanmcdunn — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 03:35:56 +0000

I too had to learn the hard way to be careful what I write on social media. I made a comment about an author’s book. I was trying to be funny, but I should have simply said the truth, that I had checked it out but didn’t purchase it because it was a genre I didn’t read. The poor guy thought I was attacking his book. I wasn’t and I promptly apologized but I felt like I had destroyed this poor guy even though I hadn’t meant to. I’m hoping that at least maybe his sales went up because of my stupid comment.

By: pamelacreese

pamelacreese — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 01:39:22 +0000

Gluten allergy? Kristen! dahling… another point of connection. Miserable thing, since so many people rate it with say hayfever instead of where it belongs…right up there with peanuts!

I admit I have been less than tactful in some of my comments and social media attempts. Thankfully, I do not yet have a ‘name’ and no one will likely ever remember (as they probably never even READ any of my insignificant comments). However, when I have known I was wromg or offended I did try to offer amends. Sometimes they accept; sometimes they cut ya off with no means to approach them. Door slammed.

I might ask, is there a proper response in such an instance?