Comments on: Refuse to be Homogenized—Beauty, Bullying and Media "Mean Girls"

By: squimple

squimple — Mon, 10 Nov 2014 00:23:11 +0000

Hi I’ve just started blogging and wrote some thoughts on this subject. http://squimple.wordpress.com/
To answer your questions as a heterosexual middle aged male: I’ve never liked the fashion industry, so never taken much interest in clothes. I’ve always been curious about women’s and men’s magazines though never supported them by buying them (btw the female models in mens magazines are larger than those in womens magaines ???) Yes, tired of actresses looking the same and excellent broadcasters disappearing from the TV once they are over 40, where do they go? I struggle to find clothes I like, finding ones that fit is super easy (very slim 6’2″).
Controversial point: Men traditionally don’t follow fashion, so we get cheaper better quality products (though this is changing for the worse). So women, particularly young women, stop buying into this madness!

By: Michelle Morrison

Michelle Morrison — Thu, 27 Feb 2014 18:35:55 +0000

Reblogged this on mchllmdm and commented: Some thoughts about bullying...There is some sound advice here.

By: Michelle Morrison

Michelle Morrison — Wed, 29 Jan 2014 23:11:06 +0000

Hahaha, that should be “by how others think I should look or be” but you probably get it. 🙂

By: Michelle Morrison

Michelle Morrison — Wed, 29 Jan 2014 23:08:01 +0000

There are some great insights here. I’m short (a little under 5 foot) and have some extra padding around my middle (I gained some weight after I turned 40, which isn’t an uncommon thing for women). I have a hard time finding clothes that fit because most clothes are for well-endowed, tall, thin women with no rear end and toothpick legs. I wish the folks making the clothes would realize not everyone is shaped like Barbie. I have been in the process of learning that I shouldn’t define myself by other’s perceptions of what is acceptable. I still have times where I get tired of being judged by how others think I should but realizing it is there problem and not mine helps. It’s not as big an issue now as it was when I was younger; it’s a difficult thing for young people when they feel like they don’t fit in because they’re considered different. I am working on losing some weight, but that’s for my own benefit and not because I really care about impressing anyone.

By: Author Kristen Lamb

Author Kristen Lamb — Tue, 14 Jan 2014 16:40:48 +0000

In reply to Ernesto San Giacomo. Go Israel!

By: Ernesto San Giacomo

Ernesto San Giacomo — Tue, 14 Jan 2014 15:29:10 +0000

I didn’t have time to read every comment (please excuse that). I heard on MediaBuzz that Israel does not allow the sale of magazines with computer enhanced images. Also you can’t appear on Israeli TV unless you have a certain Body Mass Index (BMI). They’ve stopped allowing all of their TV personalities to look anorexic.

By: Lyssa

Lyssa — Mon, 13 Jan 2014 18:36:28 +0000

I really loved the article! I wish I could say more, but so much of what I would say, has already been said in the above comments… wait… I am sure I could think of something else to say (thinking… thinking…) I guess life provides us with lots of ways to push through fear and find ways to learn to love ourselves in spite of the fact that most of the world loves to try to force us into tiny little boxes, so we will either do their bidding or just shut up and color. That’s probably why they want us skinny, when we refuse to fit in the box, we’re harder to control and we start thinking about other things, instead of make up and the size of our jeans, and when we start to think we become dangerous! I hope the FBI, CIA, and NSA got that 😉 (I also enjoyed, You Know You’re a Writer When…)

By: Robin

Robin — Mon, 13 Jan 2014 09:48:36 +0000

I’m 41 and I’m never “fixing” the gap between my front teeth. It doesn’t bother me. It does seem to bother other people who can’t understand why I haven’t “fixed” it. “Why don’t you want to look like the rest of society?” Why should I change myself to make society more comfortable?

By: saralitchfield

saralitchfield — Mon, 13 Jan 2014 08:40:27 +0000

1. You’re beautiful. 2. I’m 5 foot. Just. Don’t even get me started on jeans. Being titch used to bug the *hell* out of me! As a teen I’d work 12 hour shifts on my feet in heels. And there’s only so many inches heels can give you without crippling you! I was sick to death of short jokes. Also – I hated my nose, it has a bump in it. It was always a toss up between the two in the game ‘what would you change if you could change anything about yourself?’ Thankfully, I developed a C cup, which made up for my face. HOWEVER – I have grown out of it all (the feelings, not the features – if anything, I’m getting *shorter* and as for my nose, sigh…)… But I’m so glad there was no NFP there when I was a tweenager to wave a magic wand. I’m so glad I was given the chance to grow up and get over it and become comfortable in my skin – worth SO much more than a quick fix. I know I’m one of the lucky ones – I have a bf despite my nose – but I so wish that some people would choose work on themselves inside, rather than feeling that outside is the main issue… Great post.

By: sheageswithclass

sheageswithclass — Mon, 13 Jan 2014 00:55:39 +0000

Right on! Thanks for writing this post. Here here!! 🙂