I think you just ignore it and focus on ones who actively support you. If we want to hit a certain level of success, we have to choose battles and if people are actually being passive aggressive and we react to it? We are only feeding that poor behavior. Few things will starve out bad behavior like just being ignored.

Definitely you

Thank you, I appreciate your thoughtful response, and you might be correct that I may regret it. But for now, I think I did what was best for me.

I used the word ‘face’ twice in one of the sentences above. I’d like to change “two-faced” to “backstabbing”, but it won’t let me.

Not that I’m the one you asked, but in my opinion what you did is fine. I mean, possibly you only hurt yourself? I’m trying to think of what I would do in that situation. If it were somebody that I had a long, strong relationship with in person and they neglected me in my time of need, I’d be hurt. If it were an acquaintance then I’d be less so. I suppose we’d need to consider what you accomplished by unfriending her and what possibilities would have remained if you hadn’t.

I understand what you mean about seeing her comments on others’ posts. That seems to me to be the crux of the situation. Seeing her comments hurts a little (or a lot.) And it’s perfectly understandable and acceptable to do things to protect ourselves when we’re particularly vulnerable. Possibly – in a logical way – you would have been better served to Unfollow or Mute or whatever your particular social media calls it – for a while. But, it wasn’t a logical time. And, all you’ve said is that you unfriended her. If that was it, then you were just dealing with understandable feelings while on an emotional roller coaster. (If you lashed out and publicly called her an evil, two-faced, mentally-unsettled hag-face then perhaps you went too far.)

If I was correct in my previous paragraph, then I’m wondering if you continued seeing her comments anyway. I mean, if she were commenting on mutual friends’ posts, then unfriending her didn’t actually fix the problem. And maybe she’s right; maybe you just need(ed) to reset expectations. But, I’ll say again that going through loss like that, you should definitely cut yourself some slack.

Oh yeah, the topic of your article. I liked that too. I will say that I delete any picture or mention of Trump from my Facebook timeline, but that’s strictly because I think he get far too much attention. (Most of what I delete is people slamming him and I probably agree with them, but they are only doing him a favor by talking about him.) I do try to keep in mind that my nieces and nephews can see what I like and what I post, but for the most part it’s live and let live. I haven’t achieved a really good heated discussion on my timeline yet, though. I think I’m being too nice. I’ll have to rethink my life.