Comments on: Generation Butthurt—How Being Constantly Offended (and Offensive) Costs BIG

By: Maxwell R Holmquist

Maxwell R Holmquist — Sat, 04 Mar 2023 03:30:35 +0000

Spot on. I have a butt hurt team member at work I have to be careful with. Like egg shells careful. It’s more fun raising my girls not to end up like this.

By: Author Kristen Lamb

Author Kristen Lamb — Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:14:56 +0000

In reply to Jem Matzan (@JemMatzan). BRILLIANT! OMG "psychological mugging"????? I AM SO STEALING THAT! GENIUS!

By: Jem Matzan (@JemMatzan)

Jem Matzan (@JemMatzan) — Thu, 02 Feb 2017 01:18:25 +0000

I think three issues fuel this fire:

1. The rage fiends are so heavily invested in their online facade that they have lost connection to their real selves. Image curation has become life curation.

2. Virtue-signalling is the poison killing social media. People need to show others that they are angry about all the right things, that they are properly white-knighting, expressing outrage, and posting selfies and other images of all the right protest stuffs.

3. Pity has more value online than in real life. I know WAY more people who are obsessed with victimhood on Facebook than in real life, and having a conversation with them is like a psychological mugging; “Gimme all your pity, or else I’ll make you into my new villain.” When you have these pity-seekers on both sides of a political spectrum, they each paint the other side as the ultimate villain. Over time, the hate grows, and anyone who doesn’t surrender all their pity on command are also painted as villains. “You didn’t march? YOU’RE PART OF THE PROBLEM!”

By: Kit

Kit — Wed, 01 Feb 2017 14:41:58 +0000

Just what I needed to hear today. I love the perspective of Author. This really makes sense and is a well articulated commentary on social media.

By: KPerkins

KPerkins — Mon, 30 Jan 2017 20:44:43 +0000

I’m not the only one! (I mean, logically I knew that but it’s nice to have such a well-written proof.) In the isolated world of social media, the obvious people are the ones being obnoxious, and it’s harder to find the people who are interested in respectful conversation and even friendship. I’ve unfollowed and unfriended so many people these past six months. Some I agree with, some not, and all exhausting. I’m glad to see someone standing for a little peace on the internet.

By: Sharon Vander Meer

Sharon Vander Meer — Mon, 30 Jan 2017 19:15:12 +0000

Thanks for posting this insightful commentary about the dangers of social media. I would agree the temptation is to treat it like a toy when in fact it is a valuable tool that needs to be used wisely and well.

By: R.C. Thompson

R.C. Thompson — Mon, 30 Jan 2017 16:49:13 +0000

Belief it’s self is the problem. People rather believe than know and when a fact upends a belief they will reject the fact–and you if you presented the fact. Ideology and religions are mind killers, they tell us what and how to think. But there is not much thinking going on, rather, piles of willful ignorance are created. Thinking it’s self is attacked such as mistrust of science and the like. So when a writer presents truth by way of facts the majority of readers won’t like it. Never mess with people’s normalcy biases for god’s sake. There is no room for truth, reason, logic or facts in the market place and the powers that make money from social constructions like it that way, more so, they work hard to keep it that way. As so goes the collapse of empires.

By: Ellen Seltz

Ellen Seltz — Mon, 30 Jan 2017 00:12:32 +0000

Yup. I don’t unfriend people for their beliefs, but I do for their behavior – including people who generally share my beliefs.
I’ll share news and views that are thoughtful and measured, but not every.single.time.
I get nervous about people who only post about one thing over and over. Like, are you not human? Nobody can stay that upset/focused on one thing for that long without rupturing something.

By: ratherearnestpainter

ratherearnestpainter — Sun, 29 Jan 2017 21:56:02 +0000

I love to post pictures of my friends’ businesses. For example, a local cafe, Elgin Local Goods. I love their food; it’s from local farmers and grass-fed cows and wow it’s beautiful and delicious. I feel lately, though, that anything I post will be lost and laughably insignificant in this sea of political vitriol. (I’m speaking mainly of Facebook.)

And, it’s not even people posting their own thoughts and opinions. If everybody had to write their thoughts and post them, there would be a lot less of the political ranting. It’s the images with the messages on them that are so easy to share, and people end up sharing 10 to 20 a day. They’re almost always snide, sarcastic and antisocial. I suppose that’s what brings out the reaction. I’m not offended by the ones that are aimed at me; I’m simply tired of ALL of them.

But, just like any part of life, being thoughtful takes time and energy and not everybody is willing to put forth that much. It’s easier to share images that have snarky quips. I am trying to continue to post about local things, my artist friends and their work and that sort of thing. Maybe instead of feeling like a ridiculous twit I should try to see myself as Icy Sedgwick sees herself – as a fun oasis. It’s not always easy.

By: eddieskastle

eddieskastle — Sun, 29 Jan 2017 19:43:19 +0000

hey there! amazing post and i agree absolutely!! fb is a great place, as long as you surround yourself with great people! i do feel the need to watch who i friend as the result could be an endless barrage of negative posts!! and it has happened! i love your topic very true and humorous! thank you!