Comments on: Invoking the NO! Part 2: Guilt is a Lie & Why Boundaries Benefit EVERYONE

By: Busy: A Small Word Sending a HUGE Distress Signal

Busy: A Small Word Sending a HUGE Distress Signal — Mon, 04 Jun 2018 23:23:14 +0000

[…] Oh, and we’ll need to learn to invoke the NO. […]

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By: Lynn Kelley

Lynn Kelley — Wed, 11 Oct 2017 00:28:05 +0000

Funny as heck, Kristen. Point well taken and reinforced with laughter. 🙂

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By: Kristen Lamb

Kristen Lamb — Mon, 02 Oct 2017 12:33:17 +0000

In reply to Dominique Blessing. Yeah we totally need awards, t-shirts and stickers for this! GO YOU! *happy dance* *does really superlative cabbage patch dance moves*

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By: Dominique Blessing

Dominique Blessing — Sun, 01 Oct 2017 13:07:11 +0000

Hail to the NO! My widowed, retired mother is my worst time thief, and she usually calls during the precious writing time I set aside on my day off between household duties and picking up teen son from school. I used your advice about airplane mode, and she was bothered that I didn’t answer her calls. She wanted to know how to get ink out of a blouse–something she could’ve Googled. (And,yes, she does know how to Google.) I felt relaxed and productive, because you can’t be published if you don’t finish something to publish

By: Kristen Lamb

Kristen Lamb — Fri, 29 Sep 2017 02:05:06 +0000

In reply to Cheryl Sterling.

I didn’t have my son say that to me, but it was a question in my own mind. I didn’t want my son to grow up and his memories of Mom were her being “busy” and that writing was more important than him. The great negotiation is that we can have both. Allow Mommy to work X amount of time uninterrupted THEN we can do have a meaningful FUN time together where I am fully present instead of my “time” propelled by guilt and threaded with worry of all I need to still accomplish.

Mothers often bend more than the Karma Sutra to accommodate others and that’s not good for us or others. And often what we are accommodating is the mundane and forgettable fluff that won’t forge authentic and powerful bonds. So we are trading the easy (low-hanging fruit) for the good stuff :D.

By: Cheryl Sterling

Cheryl Sterling — Thu, 28 Sep 2017 22:31:15 +0000

When I first started writing, I had very clear “NO” boundaries for my children (ages 8 & 10). That worked until my son said, “What’s more important, your writing or your son?” Hard to argue with that logic.
p.s. He left me alone for the most part and when he did come down to my next-to-the-furnace desk, we had great conversations.

By: Laurie Logan

Laurie Logan — Thu, 28 Sep 2017 21:48:28 +0000

In reply to Kristen Lamb. Good idea :D