Comments on: The Linchpin of ALL Success—Invoking the NO! https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/ Author, Blogger, Social Media Jedi Fri, 19 Apr 2019 19:23:55 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 By: robintvale (Jessica) https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-109874 Fri, 19 Apr 2019 19:23:55 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-109874 This month it’s NO to making his breakfast. “YUou can do it.”

He throws a massive temper tantrum.

I play on my phone ignoring him.

He tries again.

No.

Another temper tantrum.

I send him upstairs as he’s making my ears crackle.

Son comes down and tries again. (I don’t’ want cereal, there’s nothing to eatttttttt. All I hear is “I can’t.”

I say “You can do it.” then ignore him again.

Another tantrum. Then I go outside have a smoke. He comes out with a corn dog (breakfast? Oh well!) and eats it happily.

We both win, he just doesn’t know it yet.

]]> By: Lynn Kelley https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-83085 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 00:02:34 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-83085 In reply to Kristen Lamb.

Just now read your reply. You made me cry. I love you, WANA Mama! You’re the best!

]]> By: Rachel C. Thompson https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82918 Sat, 07 Oct 2017 21:24:47 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82918 I like No so much I killed my face book. In fact, after painting water colors for 40 years, I killed that too. Two hours a day on line is it for me. The only thing my phone can do is answer or make a call, no text, no pictures. If I put in a good day, like 5 hours of writing, only then will I pick up my guitar, but really a book is better. With books you learn as you enjoy.

]]> By: Kat Kent https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82876 Fri, 06 Oct 2017 21:37:37 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82876 Thank you for a great post on learning to say ‘no’, Kristen. I’ve said “no” to sooo many things lately that its beginning to feel alot like all work and no play. In fact, I’ve said no so much to social media that I have literally ignorned it for months. But seriously, if you want to finish your book, you must stay focused and write. Like I tell my family, I’m so sorry but I can’t be in two places at one time: my desk writing or where they wish I would be going for stuff and doing thangs. And its hard, I love spending time with the fam. But if you have any hope of finishing your goals, you must invoke ‘no’. I set little rewards for myself when I reach goals, coffee and Hot Topic with my daughter, gardening with hubby (and weeding), talking for an hour with sis (who lives in New York). It’s quality not quantity…All the best, Kat.

]]> By: Nan Sampson https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82373 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 16:03:17 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82373 You always seem to know exactly what I need to hear! How do you do that? Great post! I just invoked the NO with offspring and plan on doing it in a work situation momentarily. Thank so much!

]]> By: Invoking the NO! Part 2: Guilt is a Lie & Why Boundaries Benefit EVERYONE – Kristen Lamb https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82369 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 15:05:40 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82369 […] Monday I posted a blog The Linchpin of ALL Success—Invoking the NO! and I appreciate all the comments. Today I want to address some of what to expect when we make the […]

]]> By: Erin Moira O'Hara https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82346 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 21:33:58 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82346 Hi Kristen. Thank you for pointing out what I do all the time. I love the word NO, and am determined to actually use it. Time for me, time for my writing, time for my fitness. Starting today, I am going to invoke it. Thanks

]]> By: I've written 200 posts since I started blogging in 2009. I've tried to share all I've learned about writing from my eighteen year writing career. https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82273 Sat, 23 Sep 2017 17:58:40 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82273 […] Invoking the NO. How to say no to everyone and everything. […]

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]]> By: Cheryl Sterling https://authorkristenlamb.com/2017/09/the-linchpin-of-all-success-invoking-the-no/#comment-82235 Fri, 22 Sep 2017 18:58:46 +0000 https://authorkristenlamb.com/?p=22824#comment-82235 I’ve evolved from a shy, oldest child who was expected to do everything to a self-assured woman who’s not afraid of NO. I believe we should teach our children the value of saying NO. Happiness does not come from trying to please everyone all the time. It comes from within. Age and experience helps us discover what our happiness centers on, but why make the journey longer by giving attention to that which does not serve us?

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