We are all a work in progress. Just keep growing 🙂 .

I don’t want to overdo it though as there’s a boundary on when you become an !@$ and fall into preaching territory. I personally think her life would be 50% easier if she didn’t use a whining tone of voice with her daughter when she wants her to do something.

What can you do you know? People, in the end, have to figure stuff out for themselves.

I was taught to be a nice person but while growing up came to the same conclusion you did. Being nice stinks.

Kind people have good self-esteem as they love themselves as much as they care about others. Kind people expect to be treated with respect. Nice people are desperate for approval, so they’re often mistreated or taken advantage of. Respect isn’t a dirty word it’s the other side of teh love coin, with out respect there is no love or real kindness. I’m trying to teach my son this. Not sure if he gets it yet.

Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. It gives me hope that I too can make the shift to being less than superhuman and being okay with setting boundaries for myself.

Yes, yes, yes! Sometimes I do things purely to keep the peace!

Joy, I think we’re twins. I’m 54, tired of being “nice”, have low self-esteem, and a lack of confidence in many areas of my life. I’m not Asian, so maybe the reasons for how we ended up at this point are a little different, but we’re still sistas!

I have. I’d like to do a book with this sort of fun but practical ‘life advice.’ I work to make the blogs applicable to more than writers and actually do have a fan base of people who are not writers. Been pondering titles. Any suggestions? Areas of focus? What would you like in a book? Thanks so much for taking time to comment. You guys have NO idea how much I appreciate the time you take to encourage me and give me feedback. (((HUGS)))