Comments on: Death Becomes Them: How Characters Come Alive in Death

By: Talena Winters

Talena Winters — Thu, 23 Aug 2018 16:01:34 +0000

This is a lovely essay. I’m sorry for your loss, Cait. Hugs.

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By: Linda

Linda — Thu, 16 Aug 2018 05:50:05 +0000

Wonderful article. I felt that in my soul. I know what it is to lose a father and a grandfather who were both larger than life. The pinball metaphor is perfect. The firsts don’t really matter anyway. I hurt as much today as I did then. I just deal with it a little better.

By: Peter Rey

Peter Rey — Tue, 14 Aug 2018 14:22:03 +0000

You said it all so poignantly I can only say thank you.
As for the pinball metaphor, I too felt that way and thought I was losing my mind. Again, thanks.

By: Paula

Paula — Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:42:19 +0000

Wow! Wow!I paused when I reached the sentence about a thousand mirrors and said to myself, “This is a boss piece of writing. You can’t really write; you have much to learn about writing.”

This article is simply excellent, so much so I read it twice!

By: Deborah Makarios

Deborah Makarios — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 23:31:48 +0000

Both eloquent and evocative!
I think the best advice on grieving I’ve ever had was from “8 Simple Rules”, weirdly enough: it’s ok to be happy when you’re happy and it’s ok to be sad when you’re sad.
Grief is hard enough without judging ourselves on how we measure up to some perceived ‘ideal’ way of working through it.
It’s a bit like the flu: it’s unpleasant, it’s messy, and there’s no point telling it how it’s supposed to go, because it ain’t listening. You’ve just got to take care of yourself and wait it out.

By: Cait Reynolds

Cait Reynolds — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 19:06:57 +0000

In reply to Vivienne Sang. Thank you, Vivienne!

By: Cait Reynolds

Cait Reynolds — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 19:06:39 +0000

In reply to Mary Foster. Thank you! If only I could have found pictures of his tandoori chicken, that would have had EVERYONE weeping. And hugs to you on the loss of your father. It's the world's saddest club.

By: Cait Reynolds

Cait Reynolds — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 19:04:59 +0000

In reply to Angela. I totally agree. I think it's probably because love and death have the same element of irrevocability. We can cease to love someone, but we are forever indelibly marked by the experience.

By: Angela

Angela — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 16:50:34 +0000

Interestingly, I think it’s love that’s scariest to put on paper. I’ve been burned so much.