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		By: Adam		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Adam]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 May 2019 00:07:14 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I think part of the challenge is how often, after we complete the task, others may look at it and go &quot;wow,&quot; but we look at it and go &quot;well of course it&#039;s &#039;this good.&#039; After putting in so much time and effort it&#039;s almost a given that it would be &#039;this good.&quot; 
There&#039;s often a sense of &quot;anyone could do what we did, if they put in that amount of effort.&quot; 
As you say, few and far between are the moments when we are praised, and anything we do regularly becomes mundane to everyone else, the classic &quot;Well of course it&#039;s good,&quot; in contrast with &quot;Wow, it&#039;s really bad. That&#039;s very unusual.&quot; 
In many ways we have to be our own cheerleaders. 
One thing I like to do is track the time I spend, and the words written, and occasionally look at the total, and take a moment to recognize how writing I&#039;ve done.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think part of the challenge is how often, after we complete the task, others may look at it and go &#8220;wow,&#8221; but we look at it and go &#8220;well of course it&#8217;s &#8216;this good.&#8217; After putting in so much time and effort it&#8217;s almost a given that it would be &#8216;this good.&#8221;<br />
There&#8217;s often a sense of &#8220;anyone could do what we did, if they put in that amount of effort.&#8221;<br />
As you say, few and far between are the moments when we are praised, and anything we do regularly becomes mundane to everyone else, the classic &#8220;Well of course it&#8217;s good,&#8221; in contrast with &#8220;Wow, it&#8217;s really bad. That&#8217;s very unusual.&#8221;<br />
In many ways we have to be our own cheerleaders.<br />
One thing I like to do is track the time I spend, and the words written, and occasionally look at the total, and take a moment to recognize how writing I&#8217;ve done.</p>
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		By: Patti Rae		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Patti Rae]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 May 2019 13:43:12 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hey Kristen, thanks for this post. It was just what I needed right now: focus on finishing my books. I&#039;m still working on building my author platform in between, but completing my product is foremost. 

And one more thing I&#039;d like to mention in regards to writing that first book. Yes, it can be a horrible, nasty, mess of purple prose, but in my case, book one is the first of a five book series, so I can&#039;t just set it aside and start something else. However, the universe brought me a fabulous developmental editor and she managed to see the story through the all of the fluff. As hard as it was to receive her edits with all the RED LINES through my beautifully written MS, I learned a lot. Her painful critique has made me a better writer and better storyteller. And fortunately, book four is almost finished, and my writing is so much better because of what I&#039;ve learned from my editors.
My point here is not to give up on that first book if you know it has potential. When we make an announcement to the universe that we&#039;re ready for the next step in our career, we just need to be prepared, because that opportunity may come with the next workshop we go to, or the next event we attend.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey Kristen, thanks for this post. It was just what I needed right now: focus on finishing my books. I&#8217;m still working on building my author platform in between, but completing my product is foremost. </p>
<p>And one more thing I&#8217;d like to mention in regards to writing that first book. Yes, it can be a horrible, nasty, mess of purple prose, but in my case, book one is the first of a five book series, so I can&#8217;t just set it aside and start something else. However, the universe brought me a fabulous developmental editor and she managed to see the story through the all of the fluff. As hard as it was to receive her edits with all the RED LINES through my beautifully written MS, I learned a lot. Her painful critique has made me a better writer and better storyteller. And fortunately, book four is almost finished, and my writing is so much better because of what I&#8217;ve learned from my editors.<br />
My point here is not to give up on that first book if you know it has potential. When we make an announcement to the universe that we&#8217;re ready for the next step in our career, we just need to be prepared, because that opportunity may come with the next workshop we go to, or the next event we attend.</p>
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		By: Five Newbie Mistakes that Will KILL a Perfectly Good Story		</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 May 2019 22:57:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		By: Top Picks Thursday! For Writers &#38; Readers 05-02-2019 &#124; The Author Chronicles		</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[[&#8230;] Productivity can make or break our career, but why is it so hard to achieve? Ruth Harris delves into the good news about the psychology of procrastination—and it’s not what we might think. Kristen Lamb joins in with 3 ways we sabotage our own success and how to change that. [&#8230;]]]></description>
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		By: Rosemary Johnson		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Rosemary Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Apr 2019 09:19:31 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Thank you, Kirsten,  We all self-sabotage.  Every day last year, whilst doing a third edit of my novel, I struggled with the urge to WRITE ANOTHER NOVEL.  Congratulate me - I resisted it!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you, Kirsten,  We all self-sabotage.  Every day last year, whilst doing a third edit of my novel, I struggled with the urge to WRITE ANOTHER NOVEL.  Congratulate me &#8211; I resisted it!</p>
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		By: robintvale (Jessica)		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[robintvale (Jessica)]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Apr 2019 15:21:28 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I&#039;m actually sticking to my new years resolution this time and am on Facebook way less this year, and writing more. I see Facebook as a break and will go on there read a few postings give a few likes maybe post some cute cat pictures, (I&#039;m always collecting them or taking ones of cheeto.) then... I pull away! I free. I free. More revising, more writing. 

One book. Stuck on one book. Sad. Well, that was last year, I&#039;m not stuck any longer. :D Self-sabotaged this whole book and have been ripping out all the stuff that was added in for gods-knows-why. The two antagonists? Merged them now there&#039;s one.  The weird bugbear that has nothing to do with the plot? Gone. The twenty + chapters of the antagonists tormenting and hurting the protagonist?  Why....urrg. Newbie writer self-thought that was a good way to get people to care. No no no no. Jez. 

/facepalm 

The strange vines that had some vague thing to do with the freed god? Gone. Facebook, twitter, pinintrst haven&#039;t posted anything on the last two in months. Not good I guess, but I know if I start again I&#039;ll hop around the internet for hours land on a search and start over researching again. Another day past; another day I didn&#039;t finish. Focus. Focus, dang it! 

Another way we can sabotage ourselves is by not backing up our work! Toss files on google docks, send them to yourself on email, save on a flash drive. You never know, your computer might eat hot lighting death from a power surge that frys your surge protector, a flood might come along, someone might break in and take your pc/laptop. The motherboard could be faulty and the blue screen will welcome you some morning. O_O (I&#039;ve personally dealt with the lighting one, and a rare faulty motherboard before. not fun.)

And the classic write it all down in notebooks. I don&#039;t do this one as my text looks like something a first grader would be ashamed of.  I need Grammarly. &#060;3 

Humm. another way we can sabotage ourselves is by not having anti-virus on our pcs/laptops. Last month I had attacks on my email account, Amazon, Microsoft, google account and more. I had to call customer support to get my amazon account back. Get an anti virus like Mccaffe so it can block incoming attacks. (about 1k attacks this month.) 

Change all account passwords! don&#039;t think you&#039;re safe it will happen. I was fine for 10+ years online and then last month BOOOM. I also set up Google and Microsoft authenticator. I hate it because if my phone dies then I&#039;m locked out of everything. But.. it can stay on for a while. At least long enough to make it too much work for those s.o.b&#039;s

I&#039;m sure there&#039;s lots more ways we can sabotage ourselves, I can&#039;t think of any at the moment. 

*Tosses a hug at Kristen* As always another great article!

*Anyone that reads this wall of text gets a cookie.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m actually sticking to my new years resolution this time and am on Facebook way less this year, and writing more. I see Facebook as a break and will go on there read a few postings give a few likes maybe post some cute cat pictures, (I&#8217;m always collecting them or taking ones of cheeto.) then&#8230; I pull away! I free. I free. More revising, more writing. </p>
<p>One book. Stuck on one book. Sad. Well, that was last year, I&#8217;m not stuck any longer. 😀 Self-sabotaged this whole book and have been ripping out all the stuff that was added in for gods-knows-why. The two antagonists? Merged them now there&#8217;s one.  The weird bugbear that has nothing to do with the plot? Gone. The twenty + chapters of the antagonists tormenting and hurting the protagonist?  Why&#8230;.urrg. Newbie writer self-thought that was a good way to get people to care. No no no no. Jez. </p>
<p>/facepalm </p>
<p>The strange vines that had some vague thing to do with the freed god? Gone. Facebook, twitter, pinintrst haven&#8217;t posted anything on the last two in months. Not good I guess, but I know if I start again I&#8217;ll hop around the internet for hours land on a search and start over researching again. Another day past; another day I didn&#8217;t finish. Focus. Focus, dang it! </p>
<p>Another way we can sabotage ourselves is by not backing up our work! Toss files on google docks, send them to yourself on email, save on a flash drive. You never know, your computer might eat hot lighting death from a power surge that frys your surge protector, a flood might come along, someone might break in and take your pc/laptop. The motherboard could be faulty and the blue screen will welcome you some morning. O_O (I&#8217;ve personally dealt with the lighting one, and a rare faulty motherboard before. not fun.)</p>
<p>And the classic write it all down in notebooks. I don&#8217;t do this one as my text looks like something a first grader would be ashamed of.  I need Grammarly. &lt;3 </p>
<p>Humm. another way we can sabotage ourselves is by not having anti-virus on our pcs/laptops. Last month I had attacks on my email account, Amazon, Microsoft, google account and more. I had to call customer support to get my amazon account back. Get an anti virus like Mccaffe so it can block incoming attacks. (about 1k attacks this month.) </p>
<p>Change all account passwords! don&#039;t think you&#039;re safe it will happen. I was fine for 10+ years online and then last month BOOOM. I also set up Google and Microsoft authenticator. I hate it because if my phone dies then I&#039;m locked out of everything. But.. it can stay on for a while. At least long enough to make it too much work for those s.o.b&#039;s</p>
<p>I&#039;m sure there&#039;s lots more ways we can sabotage ourselves, I can&#039;t think of any at the moment. </p>
<p>*Tosses a hug at Kristen* As always another great article!</p>
<p>*Anyone that reads this wall of text gets a cookie.</p>
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		By: Gry Ranfelt		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Gry Ranfelt]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Apr 2019 13:09:12 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://authorkristenlamb.com/2019/04/three-ways-we-sabotage-our-own-success-how-to-change/#comment-110353&quot;&gt;Kristen Lamb&lt;/a&gt;.

I missed you, too, Kristen :D Been kinda withdrawn as to social media for a few years, but I&#039;ve lurked on your blog :P You seriously sent me down a rabbit hole yesterday with the personality testing. It&#039;s so interesting and a bit creepy.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://authorkristenlamb.com/2019/04/three-ways-we-sabotage-our-own-success-how-to-change/#comment-110353">Kristen Lamb</a>.</p>
<p>I missed you, too, Kristen 😀 Been kinda withdrawn as to social media for a few years, but I&#8217;ve lurked on your blog 😛 You seriously sent me down a rabbit hole yesterday with the personality testing. It&#8217;s so interesting and a bit creepy.</p>
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		By: Suzanne Lucero		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Suzanne Lucero]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Apr 2019 00:18:30 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[You&#039;re an ENFP? Hot damn, girlfriend, so am I *high five* I know exactly what you&#039;re talking about: I can spend an entire day home alone, and not even realize I haven&#039;t spoken to anyone except my imaginary friends since breakfast. 

I have a job that I&#039;ll be starting on 2 May, but I&#039;m getting a jump on my 9th rewrite of my novel today. I&#039;ve listened to an expert breakdown of the screenplay for GREEN BOOK. I&#039;ve listened to some online lessons on writing from Neil Gaimon. I&#039;ve read Robert McKee&#039;s books DIALOG and STORY. And suddenly a few pennies have dropped and my writing has improved immeasurably.

AND ... I have a typing app on my Kindle now, so I can add a few sentences or paragraphs to my story during the odd break at work. *evil grin* I&#039;m gonna get this book finished no matter what. *slams fist on table*]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You&#8217;re an ENFP? Hot damn, girlfriend, so am I *high five* I know exactly what you&#8217;re talking about: I can spend an entire day home alone, and not even realize I haven&#8217;t spoken to anyone except my imaginary friends since breakfast. </p>
<p>I have a job that I&#8217;ll be starting on 2 May, but I&#8217;m getting a jump on my 9th rewrite of my novel today. I&#8217;ve listened to an expert breakdown of the screenplay for GREEN BOOK. I&#8217;ve listened to some online lessons on writing from Neil Gaimon. I&#8217;ve read Robert McKee&#8217;s books DIALOG and STORY. And suddenly a few pennies have dropped and my writing has improved immeasurably.</p>
<p>AND &#8230; I have a typing app on my Kindle now, so I can add a few sentences or paragraphs to my story during the odd break at work. *evil grin* I&#8217;m gonna get this book finished no matter what. *slams fist on table*</p>
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		By: Maco Stewart		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Maco Stewart]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Apr 2019 15:21:39 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[It would be a difficult thing to measure (how many I-didn&#039;t-finish authors could be found who would confess to it?), but a percentage metric of Authors Who Finish vs Authors Who Start would be interesting, to say the least.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It would be a difficult thing to measure (how many I-didn&#8217;t-finish authors could be found who would confess to it?), but a percentage metric of Authors Who Finish vs Authors Who Start would be interesting, to say the least.</p>
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		By: Kristen Lamb		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Kristen Lamb]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Apr 2019 14:47:56 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://authorkristenlamb.com/2019/04/three-ways-we-sabotage-our-own-success-how-to-change/#comment-110310&quot;&gt;Lauren Craig&lt;/a&gt;.

Well allegedly it is the &#039;author personality&#039; but the INFJs are awesome in other careers just like other personality types can be authors. My personality is a tie between ENFP and INFP: The Campaigner and The Mediator. Basically a crazy idealist either way. Driven by imagination and allergic to rules, structure and authority. Sooo, pretty accurate.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://authorkristenlamb.com/2019/04/three-ways-we-sabotage-our-own-success-how-to-change/#comment-110310">Lauren Craig</a>.</p>
<p>Well allegedly it is the &#8216;author personality&#8217; but the INFJs are awesome in other careers just like other personality types can be authors. My personality is a tie between ENFP and INFP: The Campaigner and The Mediator. Basically a crazy idealist either way. Driven by imagination and allergic to rules, structure and authority. Sooo, pretty accurate.</p>
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