Advice: The Great, the Bad & Good Intentions Turned Toxic Dogma

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Advice floats around everywhere. We get it from friends, family, cutesy memes, gurus, life coaches, books, television, podcasts and…bloggers *giggles*. We’re subjected to advice, whether we want it or not.

Please, let me be clear. Wise counsel is a good thing. Definitely.

We certainly don’t want to try and do this “life thing” with zero guidance. But the influx of so many opinions can be confusing, maybe even make us a tad crazy.

But these days, advice has gotten out of hand. It’s even invaded fortune cookies. Our FORTUNE COOKIES! Yes, we’ve been ordering a lot of take-out recently.

Remember those who persist enjoy success.

Okay, I’m throwing a flag on the play. THAT???? Is NOT a fortune cookie. Fortune cookies don’t offer unsolicited advice. I have a mom for that (I love you, Mom).

A fortune cookie is FUN and something we know is probably bunk, but would be super cool if it were true.

You will soon have good fortune in your endeavors.

Granted, we have no idea WTH that means. Maybe it’s good fortune regarding our endeavors investing in the stock market. Or maybe it’s our endeavors finding the bottom of that master closet we’ve been promising to clean out for three years. That isn’t the point.

Fortune cookie? FUN. Lecture Cookie? NOT FUN.

Great Advice

Ah, who doesn’t love great advice? Granted, there are certain tenets that remain true no matter the time period we happen to be living in. Most of us don’t struggle in those areas. Like probably a good idea not to murder people or go around robbing banks.

We’re solid on those, hopefully.

Since I talk mostly about writing, publishing, and the processes and components of success on this blog, we’re going to narrow the scope a bit.

If you want to write professionally—or do anything at the professional level—then the greatest advice I’ve gathered, is to learn everything you can about what you’re doing.


For novelists, we can’t break rules until we understand the rules. My advice is to read a TON of fiction—I recommend reading extensively inside as well as outside of the genre you wish to master. Add in reading craft books, blogs as well as taking classes. Then practice, practice, practice.

I learned all this the hard way, which is one of the main reasons that, even though I’m a recognized expert at branding and platform building, I still dedicate a lot of time and effort to teaching craft.

When we struggle? Then it’s time to seek out colleagues and professionals to teach us how to deal with specific issues. This advice is instructional, but still put a pin in this.

Back in the day when I was new? When it came to writing fiction, I had zero idea why my submissions kept getting rejected.

Professional Advice

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After banging my head into a wall enough times, I finally reached out to an expert who did me the favor of telling me the truth. He gave excellent advice. I didn’t understand structure. My story was…all over.

That’s saying it nicely.

With this critical bit of insight, however, I could formulate a strategy. I went to everyone I respected to explain story structure and then I studied.

I read countless books, then broke those stories apart. Not only that, I made sure to do this in all genres, with every variety of structure.

I even applied what I was learning to movies and television series and dedicated countless hours until I turned what had once been my greatest weakness into one of my greatest strengths.

Sure, I continued to hone my other skills. But, I also understood that anyone considered “great” stood on the shoulders of those who’d come before.

Why reinvent the wheel? The wheel works!

Advice can be critical and can shorten the learning curve significantly. We can transition from neophyte to the artist we long to be in a MUCH shorter time frame if we’re humble enough to seek outside help.

The Art of Discernment

Immersion and mastery is critical. This is true in all professions, not just in writing.

But there is another benefit that comes from gathering all the guidance you can from those whom you respect, then giving their suggestions at least a try. You learn what works, what doesn’t, and what might need to be modified.

It also keeps us from falling into fads, and being tossed along on the tides of other people’s opinions.

We gain a sense of who we are and that, what might be a fantastic approach for one author (or entrepreneur, marathon runner, parent, etc.), might not be the best for us. Better still, we’re able to articulate WHY this or that tactic does or doesn’t work for us.

Bad Advice

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This is where things might start to get a bit hazy, because in many instances, bad is subjective. Also bad advice and good advice are fluid.

Life isn’t static.

What worked great for me this time last year, certainly crumbled once my health collapsed this past winter with what was deemed a COVID-LIKE ILLNESS.

I can preach all day long about persistence and why emotions can’t dictate putting your @$$ in the chair and getting words on a page—and have—but when you can’t even make it out of bed?

That advice goes out the window…along with anyone giving it. KIDDING!

….I wouldn’t have been strong enough 😛 .

But my time off—which has been enough to make me want to live in my blanket fort forever—has made me think about a lot of the Rah! Rah! quotes we hear all the time, especially in self-help and business success books.

***Which, for the record, I still love those. Mostly.

Yet, during my forced convalescence, I listened to a lot of audio books. I strive to be optimistic, but was really down in the dumps.

Suddenly, my go-to reads I’d always used to perk me up were doing the exact opposite. The phrases (mantras) that once cheered me up were…well, pissing me off.

I believe we’ve heard a lot of these quotes so many times, we simply accept them, regurgitate them, and try to live up to them. Then, when we don’t? We’re even more miserable.

But today? Let’s unpack some of these advice bricks, the ones made from good intentions that are paving the road to personal hell. What once was sound advice has—in my POV—become dogma. Toxic dogma.

Maybe I’m being dramatic. We’ll see.

Good Intentions & Toxic Dogma

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If medicine can change, then maybe our motivational quotes should too?

I presume most of you have heard the proverb, The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Every one of those bricks, or at least many, have some of the quotes I’d like to rip apart parse for further examination.

#1 Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day.

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How many times has this quote made me feel like dirt? Man, I took time to read a book for FUN? Or go to an amusement park or simply do…nothing? Look at all these amazing people accomplishing greatness.

They’re world-changers because they’ve mastered time-management!

So I’d buy another organizer, another book on how to do more stuff in less time, download another app and still…

Weighed, measured and found wanting.

But let’s look at this credo honestly. Did Leonardo DaVinci have to wash his own laundry? Clean his own house? Cook his own food? Go shopping? Pay bills? Watch kids?

Shuttle a rowdy team of jousters and their equipment from event to event?

No. He had wealthy patrons with servants who took care of aaaaalllll the other stuff so he could do what HE DID and do it WELL.

Same (or similar enough) with Michelangelo, Isaac Newton, Dale Carnegie, blah blah blah….

Not saying they didn’t achieve greatness, but they…um, well let’s say they had a lot of other people to delegate the more mundane matters of life to.

Modern examples. Do we really believe we have the same 24 hours as Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Kim Kardashian, J-Lo, Marissa Mayer (former C.E.O. of Yahoo), or any other “icon” from any industry?


Frankly, I was up to my eyes in laundry recently when an article crossed my phone. Gwyneth Paltrow had a piece filled with advice about how I could achieve more peace and work-life balance.

*left eye twitches*

Nothing against Ms. Paltrow but…seriously?

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I’m happy we live in a world where people can do and achieve great things and certainly don’t begrudge success or resent those who are blessed with more. But don’t act as if we have the same 24 hours in a day, because we don’t.

The takeaway? This quote is bull sprinkles. Yes, time is precious and a nonrenewable resource. Use it well. But give yourself permission to be who you are and where you are.

Unless you can snap your fingers and have a personal assistant appear with your triple espresso extra hot, three copies of your manuscript printed off as requested for edits (with three colors of your favorite fountain pens specially ordered) so you can work while you wait on your personal chef to deliver your egg white omelette?

Chillax already.

#2 Winners never quit & quitters never win.

Love you, Vince…but no. This is a quote from famous football coach Vince Lombardi. My third year in university I slipped on ice and fractured my back, thus losing my full ride military scholarship.

With no scholarship, I had to work two jobs. One happened to be at Successories, that cool mall store with all the motivational posters and books.

I’m not per se a football fan, though I love football stories, movies and quotes. There were plenty of quote books in the store and virtually every one of them had this very famous line.

Granted, for a time this quote helped a lot. I was on a cane for a year and back then there were no laws mandating handicapped access. #FunTimes

Then, as I got older and gained more experience, I came up with my own quote.

Persistence can look a lot like stupid.

~ Kristen Lamb

Thing is, winners DO quit. They quit all the time. In fact, learning how and when to quit is a secret to success.

How many writers are working on that same first novel year after year? Instead of taking it for what it is—a part of the learning process—and thanking it for what it provided? They keep rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.

The first novel is a place to play, to learn and experiment and find our voice.

Maybe it can transformed into a glimmering horse-drawn carriage, but more likely than not? It’s just a pumpkin that no amount of bippity-boppity-boo is going to save.

It’s a pumpkin and we can keep adding layers and layers of verbal glitter, but it won’t stop it from stinking.


I’ve been a business consultant, doomed to stand helpless watching entrepreneurs (who’d hired me to help) throw good money after bad. Instead of going back to the original plan, hot-washing, and realizing they’d gotten off track and needed to STOP?

They kept going, plunging ahead, refusing to listen…and spending more. Throwing good money after bad.

All this “learning quitting is okay stuff” is a lot like math. I know! Don’t shout me down yet. I get most creatives shudder at the M-word, but suck it up, Buttercups 😛 .

If we’re attempting to solve a math problem and suspect we’ve made a mistake somewhere, the best course of action is to QUIT. Erase and go BACK.

Sometimes the way forward is the way baaaaack.

Yes, I am semi-quoting the movie Labyrinth.

If something isn’t working? QUIT. Then examine WHY it wasn’t working. Only fools keep going ahead even when it’s clear they’ve obviously taken a wrong turn. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome.

#3 You can do/be anything, if you just try hard enough.

This one? I might be a bit more immune since I’m from the ever-jaded Generation X. Yet, notice I said, a “bit” more immune, not completely immune.

Sometimes, we can want to do or be something and we just don’t have what it takes. I’ve posited this debate when it comes to writing fiction, but today we’ll go to a more practical story from my….colorful life.

Remember I won a military scholarship? I won a scholarship to become a doctor, which was why I majored (for a long while) in Neuroscience. Anyway, I got this brilliant idea I’d be a surgeon.

That was, until I took Majors Biology (meant for pre-med students)…in summer school.

Wakeup Call. I was NOT Special.

Don’t get me wrong, I kicked @$$ with the book work and tests. But then we had to dissect a starfish. For anyone new to this blog, I come from a military and medical family, so am far from squeamish. The gooey dissection wasn’t the problem.

Here was the problem…

We get our starfish and start to work. At the end?


The foreign exchange student next to me? His starfish looked as if it belonged framed in a laboratory…or a museum. Everything was perfect, precise, each anatomical part pinned to the board with excruciating precision with the delicacy of an artist.

MY starfish looked as if as if some big guy with a middle name THE (Jimmy the Hammer, Vinnie the Fish, Joey the Screwdriver) had caught up with my starfish to collect on gambling debts my starfish, sadly, could not pay.

After beating my starfish unconscious, the crew then ran it over…multiple times to prevent a proper I.D.

In short, it was pretty clear I was not destined to be a surgeon.

My Advice? Limits are No Biggie

Limits are…limits. We live in a world that shames failure, yet humans are designed to learn by failing. How do we learn to walk? By toddling around and falling until we get it right.

When we quit the wrong things, we can make way for the right things. Those who’ve followed my blog over the years know I started out professionally in corporate sales. I guess I could have forced myself to stay in that world.

But then I wouldn’t be here, making bad starfish jokes 😀 .

Trust me, I had a LOT of pushback when I left sales.

I said, “I’m going to become a professional author.”

My grandparents (who’d raised me most of my life) heard, “Leaving super lucrative job blah blah writing blah throwing away expensive college degree blah blah becoming author blah blah blah joining a cult and worshipping Satan.”

They didn’t speak to me for two years.

Quitting Can be Tough

Quitting sales was hard. Sales had a company car, health insurance, and I didn’t have to live with my mom, which is uncool when you’re over thirty. Yep, caught a ton of crap for that.

Even my MOM caught a ton of pushback for helping me. Friends, family, church members were certain I was a loser who’d be dealing crack out of her living room any day!

***Even though I’ve never even seen crack or 99% of all other illegal drugs outside of a movie, but oh-kay.

Didn’t matter, because my mom ROCKS. She believed in me and didn’t care, so long as I was writing 😉 . And obviously not cooking crack in her kitchen. Or baking crack? Making crack in a crock pot? Whatever one does to create crack…just wasn’t to do THAT.

But what would have happened, where would I be if I’d NEVER QUIT corporate sales?

Well, I don’t know where I WOULD be. But I do know where I WOULDN’T be.

I wouldn’t be here with y’all. I wouldn’t have had the honor, privilege, and sheer FUN of your company for these many years. Would not have enjoyed helping y’all navigate the changing publishing paradigm, the emerging digital world, or helped you learn about craft and maybe even laugh along the way.

Advice is Just That…Advice

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In the end, offering advice is a very human way of showing we care. Maybe it’s especially a female thing. Or maybe it’s me. Helpful Hannah here!

We always have the option of simply saying, “Thank you for sharing. I’ll consider what you said.”

As for the stuff floating around the success and self-help world? I love a lot of that sort of content. Mentorship is essential, even if that “mentorship” comes from books, podcasts, lectures, seminars, etc.

My goal here is to merely challenge y’all to pause a moment and examine what you take in. How does it make you feel? Is it truly applicable or even useful? Take what works. What doesn’t work or apply? Like that first manuscript.

Thank it for sharing and let it GO!

What Are Your Thoughts?

Do you feel like a lot of the success advice is absurd? I enjoy inspirational books and quotes and strive to take what I need and leave the rest, but struggle. Seems like I can be my own worst enemy.

What about you? Like with the whole COVID thing. I was really sick. It’s been a battle to get back to even feeling normal and it’s tough not to berate all the things I’ve not accomplished instead of paying attention to all I have accomplished.

And I’d keep a gratitude journal….but then I’d probably miss a week and feel like crap for missing a week on my gratitude journal, LOL.

Come on! SHARE! Laundry can wait. No one is wearing real pants anymore anyway…

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    • Jean Lamb on July 9, 2020 at 2:06 pm
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    I hear you on the self-help books. I cruised through THE 4 HOUR WORK WEEK, amazed and delighted. And then I read that he had a wife. Sure, buddy. We could do amazing things if we all had a wife…

    1. I had the same experience with a leadership book from a VERY well-known author I won’t name. The advice he gave in this particular book I thought, “SERIOUSLY?” It had something to do with deliberately sitting in his office an hour a day to simply THINK. At the time, I had a toddler. And I thought, “Sure, buddy.” I knew he was married and had kids and likely had a wife who tended the house and kids while he did all this alone pondering time. He certainly didn’t have a three-year-old obsessed with zombies scaling his leg and crawling in his hair, a mountain of laundry and dishes and a yard he had to mow because his spouse was working 60 hour weeks like I did. I threw the book across the room and haven’t read another of his books since.

    2. Ain’t that the truth! My mother-in-law says she sometimes marvels at all her mother achieved, and then remembers – oh, yeah, she had staff!

      Even Arnold Bennett’s classic How To Live on 24 Hours A Day contains instructions on how to get your servant to set up tea things for you the night before, so you’re not dependent on said servant to get your early early tea in the morning. Ah, sweet independence… (facepalm)

  1. Ha. COVID is great, until you can’t fit into those jeans from 6 months back. But I digress. I worked. Forever. On My MS. I should have thrown it out, but it was my master learning experience. My first draft through to my near-literal zillionth SUCKED. My sister said I was possessed, or at least, unnaturally obsessed. My family (with the exception of my husband) had lovely responses such as, “Soooo… how’s that little book of yours coming? I’ve published like… 5.”

    SLAPPING the utter crap out of them in my brain while smiling. “With an agent.” Lie. “Near publication.” Lie. I became near-bout pathologically lie-ridden.

    I tossed it to agents/publishers ’round the world. Literally. Last time. And I printed it up, put it away and prayed, “So, Lord, if you want this out there, well that’s up to You.” Then, took up my second novel, thinking, “well, that was a pfft, but, like, whatever, I learned a lot.”

    A month later, got a sweet offer from a publishing house for the first novel. I probably coulda prayed that one a year or two back. No, I needed more rewrites and edits. But quitting it hadn’t been part of the plan, no matter how many folks told me to stop. I did, for a time. While it sits in the process of publication, I STILL think of things I could have rewritten. Alas. Too late.

    If ONLY I had known the process, perhaps it wouldn’t have taken 8 yrs, but then again, I needed serious patience to ignore my naysayers, i.e. family, friends, complete strangers.

  2. I flat-out LOVE you and all your posts, and this one in particular! Why guilt ourselves into a tizzy over not following advice that doesn’t even apply?

    • Roger Nay on July 9, 2020 at 7:18 pm
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    First, I enjoyed your novel. It’s packed with memorable characters and snappy dialog. Good blog post. I’ve started and quit writing at least a half dozen times since taking two fiction writing courses in college. The instructor took me aside and told me I had talent and could be good if I decided to get serious and work at the craft. I never did get serious until January of 2019 and wonder if it’s too late, but I keep plugging away.

    1. It isn’t ever too late. But we’ll do far better if we are following good advice, dismissing what doesn’t work, and junking ideas that are flat-out absurd like that “Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day” crap. Keep going and thanks so much! I’m happy you love the book. But guess what? That book only happened because I QUIT. It started out a VERY different book. The MC was a military vet and a badass and no one in critique ever liked her. They loved my supporting characters and the concept but hated my MC. So, I scrapped it, went back to the drawing board and started over. I kept the core idea and recast the MC as Romi, a fish-out-of-water up against seemingly unbeatable odds. FINALLY, it worked. But what would have happened if I’d kept trying to make my FIRST idea work? I would have never finished. Or would have finished and had a book no one liked. There are advantages to quitting 😉 .

        • Roger L Nay on July 10, 2020 at 8:25 am
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        You discussed the evolution of Romi in one of your on demand classes. I think you made the right choice. Romi is smart, attractive, a little overwhelmed and reckless at the same time. I’m not sure how a badass Romi would have made the your story more interesting.

        1. In the original version she was Riley and not badass per se. She had training, but serious PTSD and a lot of false shame and guilt from Afghanistan. She’d isolated herself because she didn’t believe she deserved forgiveness. I think it just wasn’t the right story for ME to write. The newer version 2.0 was a FAR better fit.

  3. Genuinely laughed out loud at your description of the post-dissection starfish… and then laughed till I cried when reading it out to my husband. Thanks!!

    • Anne Kaelber on July 9, 2020 at 8:02 pm
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    Your post is spot-on and one I needed to read today. <3

    Through this pandemic, I've struggled with feeling blah about my writing. I'm finally(!) drafting the novel….and I just want to curl up with my knitting or start a new Factorio factory — both give me the opportunity to consume many audiobooks!). I don't understand my low motivation to dive into the writing, when it's ALL I've wanted to do for months. I need to see progress right now, but I suspect I may need a 'stay-cation' more.

    But… What if I'm not being *hard enough* on myself? That's usually tied to how many hours I'm in the "work seat", words I write (only the words in the manuscript count), days off I do(n't) take. I'm one of the lucky writers– this IS my day job (well, except for the no pay thing). I know every breath I'm not working is another breath longer before my work is professional, before I see even a small paycheck. I know I can't expect every breath to be about my writing — it's not possible nor is it healthy. But I struggle most of all with whether I'm working hard enough or if I'm being lazy.

    I remind myself of how hard I work, how I put in the time at odd hours, or when the Muse and I are getting along and speaking the same language. But I still can't stop telling myself I'll never be a BIG NAME author because I'm not pouring my everything into the work.

    I love your blogs, your classes, YOU! You're so supportive to those you work with. I've learned so much from you. I've pushed myself harder, because of your excitement for my world, because it energizes me to have someone on the outside looking in and thinking it's cool. Keep you and yours safe, because you'd definitely leave a hole in *my* life, lady. 😉


    • Jean Lamb on July 9, 2020 at 9:32 pm
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    I remember being delighted when the children were old enough that I Could Go To The Bathroom By Myself! Believe me, that was a happy day (and then they got into a fight, but you knew that part). Now that they are grown, my husband is retired. But I reserve Wagon Train time for me, and he’s happy enough then.

  4. I loved that book. It. Was. Awesome. From that takeaway, I turned my schmaltzy character into a totally unlikeable woman. I mean, really. I had a pre-reader stop after pg 10 because my MC was such a, well, fill in the blank. The drawing board is something we often need to ride the surf with. Getting it nice and clean.

    • rachelwordsmith on July 10, 2020 at 8:44 am
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    “self-help and business success books.” are mostly BS and written by con men and sociopaths, people like Gates and Oprah.
    The entire industry of selling hope and guidance is bogus just like religions and political ideology. This can be understood. Study psychology, social psychology and economics and you’ll see the neon lights. It is good to understand the human condition anyway so that we can write better fiction. But the best advice I have seen came from the king of comparative mythology, Joseph Campbell, who said. “Follow your bliss.” I’ll add the purpose of life is to live it and if writing gives your pleasure, do it. Temporal gains don’t about to bliss.

    1. I agree, though not all. I love Mark Manson’s “Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,” “The Power of Broke” by Damon John, not to mention many books by Seth Godin. A lot of them make my skin crawl though. Too…”cult” feeling.

    • Roger Nay on July 10, 2020 at 4:31 pm
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    After reading your blog for a year and watching two videos, I think Romi is at least 50% Kristen Lamb.

    1. Probably. If you’d seen some of my other fiction it might terrify you.

  5. My favorite quote is from a friend: “Take my advice. Really! I’m not using it.”

  6. Kristin, I don’t often pop in, but I just want to tell you how much I love reading your blogs. I learned something reading this one and it may have sent me off to write my own post (which won’t be as clever or funny as yours, but I feel that little tickle that means I need to write about it and see where it goes). Two take-aways for me: Society’s label on quitting and giving advice (which I do at every opportunity) is an expression of caring. With those two strokes, you hit my buttons. Thank you!

  7. Most of those inspirational quotes are meaningless until that one time that they strike your heart exactly where you needed it. One trick is knowing yourself well enough to sort those that will never mean anything to you from those that have potential. Another trick is cruising through those you’ve saved often enough to allow the one that speaks loud and clear and sends you reeling with its importance, here and now, for what and who you are today. Tomorrow, it will once again join the ranks of the potential, so strike while the iron is hot!

    I’m always surprised when I go to my to–be-read pile of books and pull one that has sat so long it is furry with dust, one that I intended to read months or years ago, and I open it up and begin to read, and there, on that page there, see it? There is the diamond I needed this very day, winking and gleaming at me because it knew all along that I’d find it eventually!

  8. Personally, I love the fact that you QUIT the corporate world to become a coach of writers. You may not always know whose life you touch, but, Kristen, it has been your words of advice that have helped to keep me focused on my golden ring all these years, and now I’ve published my first book! It will be released in September with book two in the series coming out in December. So thanks for all of your advice, words of wisdom and funny memes. Obviously, you weren’t meant for a life of corporate sales or as a surgeon, and aren’t we all fortunate for it?

    1. It’s good to hear. I need to write a blog. Been struggling lately. Introverts don’t do too well in complete isolation. Been hard to maintain my spark :/

  9. I have to say, this really struck a chord: “I can preach all day long about persistence and why emotions can’t dictate putting your @$$ in the chair and getting words on a page—and have—but when you can’t even make it out of bed?”

    I teach at a university and suddenly we had to flip everything to online learning (#COVIDsucks). It turns out recording lectures is so much more labor intensive than walking into a room and delivering a lecture. Plus, there’s a lot more virtual hand-holding of students, who are suddenly robbed of access to their usual supports. So….zero time for writing. Actually, less-than-zero turns out to be physically possible. But my writers’ group is all, “But you have to carve out time for writing every day.” Which makes me feel worse, because I70 students say I really can’t.

    So thank you for affirming/confirming the need to step away for a bit. Sometimes you do what you just gotta do.

  10. I always enjoy your advice columns. Thanks for more wisdom.

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