All Wounds Matter: Writing Better Stories

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Wounds matter in life and in fiction. The last blog was a bit heavy, true. My goal was to start the dialogue about being wounded. You are not alone. I am not alone. We’ve all been hurt in some way and to some degree. Just goes with being human.

Admitting weakness, failure, mistakes, and flaws isn’t always easy. In fact, it can be downright terrifying for even the ‘strongest’ of us. It’s an especially daunting task in a world that idolizes something none of us will ever be…perfect. Wounds are part of the human experience. When we understand the nature of wounds, our fiction becomes all the richer just by adding in these layers.

All genres and all stories require wounds. No wound and no story. Even The Little Engine That Could had self-esteem issues and a confidence problem 😉 .

Wounds provide friction vital for conflict, No conflict, no story. Conflict turns pages, sells books, and cultivates fans. The entire point of stories is a flawed character overcoming some internal issue (damage) in order to triumph over an external problem. It’s why readers read fiction.

Genre Dictates Damage

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This said, the wounds need to fit the genre because genre acts as a guideline for reader expectations. Our goal as authors should be to meet then exceed reader expectations. Stories are all for the reader or should be, which is why genre constraints can be very helpful for writers.

No one expects a cozy cupcake mystery to explore the nature of evil. Readers who gravitate to this genre are wanting a lighter read and will resent us playing Dostoyevsky. Conversely, if a reader is in the mood for a story that probes the depths of the human condition, they’re probably not picking up a novel about a cupcake baker who solves local crimes.

Many emerging writers often shy away from damaged characters and use genre as an excuse to avoid the uncomfortable. Big mistake. A cozy cupcake mystery can give the reader the light entertainment she craves and also offer emotional resonance she needs…without being Crime, Punishment and Cupcakes (though that’s a killer title, LOL).

When we understand wounds better, it helps us cultivate layered characters who’ll make for page-turning stories, regardless of genre. Let’s look at some common sources for wounds.

Pain of Perfect

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First, what is perfect? Good question. Humans all across time and in every culture idolize perfect (always have and always will) though what perfect is varies vastly and changes all the time. Just take a moment to check out female beauty standards across the ages and it’s easy to see how, while the world around us might change, people don’t.

We are still ridiculous.

The ancient Incas thought being cross-eyed was super sexy. RAWR. They often fitted infants with a plank between their eyes to artificially create this ‘natural’ beauty for those unlucky enough to be born with ‘normal’ eyes. Ancient Greece was hot for the unibrow.

From ideal body type to what constitutes success to what constitutes normal or abnormal is in constant flux, and is different everywhere. It even varies from household to household depending on culture and you got it…wounds. This is where writers can have a lot of fun creating mayhem in fiction.

Falling Short

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No matter what genre we write, a character failing to ‘live up to’ some ideal is gold. Maybe your character has spent a lifetime being measured against the ‘perfect’ older sibling, and struggles with self-esteem. This character might flounder trying to create his/her own distinct identity.

Or flip it.

What if the character happens to be the ‘perfect’ older sibling? This character didn’t ask for family or outsiders to pick on his or her younger sibling for not being as smart, talented, pretty, ambitious, etc.

This character never asked to be the standard unit of measurement to judge another human being. How much guilt might come with that? Think of the pressure or even the fear of being exposed as a ‘fraud’?

Also, we have another ‘person’ who lacks a distinctive identity. While we have two very different ‘people’ both characters are defined in relation to the other. Outsiders have denied agency to both. It’s amazing how something as simple as birth order can create a wound that drives characters and their decisions (good and bad).

We see this sort of wound explored in everything from The Joy Luck Club (literary fiction) to Game of Thrones (epic high fantasy) to one out of every three Hallmark movies 😉 .

The Diseased Family Tree

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Since we’re all in the holiday season, we might be more intensely aware of how wounds can come from those closest. We touched a bit on family damage with ‘perfection.’ Family damage can come in many forms.

Joe Hill’s Heart-Shaped Box does a brilliant job of exploring the ‘anti-goal’ which is a common fruit of the diseased family tree.

Judas Coyne is a famous rockstar, wealthy beyond imagination who has everything (including a lot of emotional baggage). Hate, anger and resentment fueled his incredible success, yet false guilt and profound shame keep him from enjoying any of it. A vengeful ghost determined to destroy him body and soul might be the only thing with the power to liberate Coyne from his emotional bondage.

Sometimes the diseased family tree is not as obvious. Often, parents believe they’re giving their children the best, but are actually deluded about the nature of their motives.

In The Luckiest Girl Alive, TifAni’s mom is superficial, materialistic, and self-absorbed. Her father is an emotionally absentee ghost who resents his life. Her mother pushes for TifAni to attend an elite prep school to give her daughter all the opportunities she missed (code for ‘marry real money’). Dad doesn’t have the spine to stand up and say ‘no.’

Both parents are too self-centered to realize TifAni in that school is a ticking bomb.

Of course, not every character needs to grow up in Season Ten of The Jerry Springer Show in order to take on some damage. The road to therapy is paved with good intentions.

Parents are human, too.

What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty explores how the best of intentions can poison everything.

Life Wounds All

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Life has 100% fatality rate. No one gets out alive. Also we’re all going to get hurt somewhere by someone. Thing is, life is all…pointy. If family doesn’t make us bleed, then school, peers, romantic interests, work colleagues, Facebook or plain bad luck will.

I know. I missed my calling writing inspirational cards 😛 .

Why am I talking about all this? Because we writers have more ‘competition’ than any other time in human history. With no gatekeepers, discoverability is a nightmare. There are a gazillion choices for books and most of them (like cable channels) are a waste of what little free time we have.

More is Not Always Better

From movies to television to books, audiences are deluged with tired tropes, boringly predictable plots and characters with the emotional depth of a goldfish. We can see this ‘glut of meh’ as a problem or use it for our advantage.

If we know why readers read, what they want, then we can work hard on what matters. Readers long for emotional connection and stories that help them deal with pain, ease their pain or maybe even solve/release their pain. They want hope that messed up people overcome big problems in spite of, or perhaps because of, wounds and flaws.

At the other side of the problem is joy, peace, true love, freedom, fulfillment, healing, understanding, wholeness! Wounds are healed and victory sealed. Who doesn’t want more of THAT?

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  1. Wonderful stuff as usual. So helpful!

  2. Yes! Totally agree with this.

    I just put a book down 40% of the way through it because meh. I am so tired of meh!! When I do get an afternoon to read, I want more!

    I also appreciate the distinction in wounds. What is right for a thriller is not right for a romance novel. I think you have to really consider your audience. Are you targeting Hallmark Channel readers or Game of Thrones readers? While some people read both, I’m going to be really ticked picking up a light holiday romance and finding GoT themes running through it!

  3. I recently suggested to a romance writer that having flaws in a character would make a more interesting read and was told that there were specific rules for this genre that did not allow beyond a certain level of flaws. I’m glad I don’t write romance! 🙂

    1. I’ve heard this too. My response is, rules??!! HA! I write gritty, contemporary romance, but what I write is not a perfect fit for that genre. I write what I want. Some people like it, some people don’t, and that is OK.

  4. Speaking of perfection and wounds….brought to mind things like whale-bone corsets and removing ribs to get the best waistline, plus binding feet into grotesque points to mimic…um…well, someone knows why…

    Wounds create scars. Scars are lumpy-bumpy or smooth, depending on what was done to create healing. Mental scars are revealed in external actions — speech, tics, quirks, fears.

    Great post, Kristen, as always — but this road you have guided us down is essential to creating great stories. Thanks!

  5. I’m totally stealing “Crime, Punishment, and Cupcakes.”

  6. You should definitely write inspirational cards! Bring on the wounds.

  7. Hi Kristen, Always enjoy your blogs. My writing professor taught me to include a “Core Wound” along with “Incorrect Thinking” for each character.

    I’ve been invited to do a guest post for a book blogger. My second book (which I’m currently writing) is about domestic violence and abuse; however, the mom struggles with being a “good mom.” I LOVE your picture with the caption: “Do you think I’m a bad mom Jimmy? My name is Jack.” May I use it in my post? I’d be happy to give you credit. Please let me know.
    Thanks. Michele Khoury

    1. That was a meme I used that had been floating around the interwebs.

  8. Thanks, Kristen.

    • Beth Brubaker on December 11, 2017 at 1:20 pm
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    I have a character that, in my younger writing years. was right out of the box perfect. I could never figure out why my story wasn’t moving forward until I realized my character had no place (or reason) to grow!

    I’m still working with her- she is a fantasy character who is a pretty chestnut-haired gal (not drop-dead gorgeous thank God) and hates the fact that she is. She even wonders if she should break her nose or do something else extreme to make herself less…noticeable.
    There’s a magical accident where she is bonded with the spirit of a phoenix, and when she comes to, she has no idea what happened until her mother (the mage who messed up the darned spell) shows her her reflection.
    Forget the fact that she now has wings (that she only notices after the initial shock)- her first thought when seeing herself is ‘Dearest Gods, I’m a blonde!’

    I’m still working on her, and maybe one days she’ll be downsized enough that I can grow her in a story. In the meantime, I still get a chuckle out of this scene!

  9. Great article, Kristen. You have made some really good points. I have used this in my still-unpublished novel, hopefully to good advantage. My “heroine” is definitely flawed and has received some heart-wrenching blows, but she perseveres and comes out on top.

    1. I forgot to mention that I linked this to my website.

    • Angie Randak on December 12, 2017 at 8:55 am
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    Loved you blog about wounds! Figuring out unique characters’ wounds is something I struggle with (along with fifty million other things…). I never thought of birth order as inspiring a wound!
    Thanks for writing your blog. It keeps me thinking about my writing during the busy work day when I’m doing my “real” job.

  10. Hi Kristen,
    I’ve enjoyed your blogs and suggestions and hope you don’t mind that I referred to you in my blog when I took one of your suggestions. (Hopefully you get some new signups) Your post on November 6, Training to go pro and stay pro, inspired me to try NaNoWriMo (almost). The one time I tried NaNo it became too stressful, but when I tried it your way, I was able to write 600 words a day (that was my goal, humm, you might say, I was testing the waters!). Paragraph 3 on my blog: This month my goal is higher (1000 words a day) and my story is coming together faster than ever before because of you. Thank you and have a very Merry Christmas

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