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Tag: setting boundaries

Lost, Hurting, Used Up? Be Nice…Until It’s Time to NOT Be Nice

Our culture trains us to be ‘nice.’ No is a two-letter ‘four-letter word.’ Boundaries are ‘being mean.’ We should all strive to ‘understand, be flexible, and all get along.’  It’s as if there’s no middle ground between jerk and b$#@ versus someone with a healthy sense of boundaries. Besides *chirpy voice* good deeds add up. …

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Busy: A Small Word Sending a HUGE Distress Signal

Busy, busy, busy. Aside from ‘parsnip‘ I’m beginning to think my new trigger word is ‘busy.’ A couple posts ago, I took on the insidious lie about us being able to ‘find time’. There’s this generally accepted delusion that time is something we can find. No, time isn’t lost. We are. We can’t find time, …

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Invoking the NO! Part 2: Guilt is a Lie & Why Boundaries Benefit EVERYONE

Last Monday I posted a blog The Linchpin of ALL Success—Invoking the NO! and I appreciate all the comments. Today I want to address some of what to expect when we make the decision to Invoke the NO, because when we are prepared for what likely WILL happen, we: a) Will be calmer because we anticipate …

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The Linchpin of ALL Success—Invoking the NO!

One major advantage of being older is the blessing of perspective. Us “older folk” have lived enough years to have gained decades of experiences, failures, mistakes, victories, setbacks, trials, and tests. This means we have the benefit of context. Many of us also have a clearer picture of what “success” really looks like. What is …

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Emotional Toughness—How Haters & Hurt Feelings Can Be GOOD for Us

The hard truth is we don’t grow without being uncomfortable. We don’t get tough without friction. And I wonder if this being comfortable has permeated too much of our lives, down to our “feelings.”